I wanted to share a couple of gems that I received that I felt were worth repeating. These words have been on my mind and really got me thinking about ways I can make positive changes, give myself (and others) grace and take care of myself.
I know how it feels to end up getting to a place where it's hard to recognize yourself in your life. I look at what my husband and I have built together, our family and home together, and I don't know how I got so lucky. But there's not enough of me in my life. I think to myself, "If this is my life, then where are my friends? Why don't I look like myself? Why do I get hardly any time to do the things that I like to do?" I'll say to my husband that it's like that saying about when a tree falls in a forest. I'll say, "If I'm a fun person, but don't have friends to have fun with, then am I fun? Or if I am a great quilter or baker or dancer but never have time to quilt or bake or dance, then am I a great quilter/baker/dancer?" As women, we give so much of ourselves that sometimes it's hard to tell if there's even anything left.
Motherhood (and moves) messes with your identity and self-confidence because so much of your day is spent as Mom, and a lot as Wife, but I imagine that not very much is spent as Elizabeth. Then it gets hard to even know who that is anymore."
Boy! Did she nail it! I honestly can't get these thoughts out of my head. I've been contemplating so much about what I want out of my life. Not what's expected of me. Not what I should be doing for someone else, but what I want to do. I have spent so many years trying to make choices that will make everyone else pleased or proud of me. Life is too short for that.
I also love what another e-mailer, Anna, wrote: "The strong person is still in there, she was just going through an extra hard time. These trials are just footnotes - they don't define us. They can make us into better people, but they are not who we are. We are made of stronger stuff."
I love that! I am strong and so are you. We got this, friends!