While I want my daughter to have confidence and love herself beyond the way she looks, at the same time, I don't think it's wrong to do what we can to highlight and celebrate our amazing bodies.
I wear make-up and it makes me feel good.
I get my hair highlighted and it brightens my face.
I like to wear clothes that flatter my body type and I feel better, kinder, more confident when I do.
So, where is the balance between loving ourselves for more than what we see in the mirror and also loving (and celebrating) these bodies we've been blessed with? Last night, I watched this TED talk and just cried as I realized how many women (including me) do this - we apologize for the way we look. Why? We don't owe prettiness to anyone. My value and worth and importance and honor does not lie in the way that I look or the way that anyone else looks.
I hope that my example will help teach my daughter to be the best version of herself and to know that she is a daughter of God with divine abilities. I hope that she will understand that the old song "kindness begins with me" applies to the kindness and grace she gives to herself as well as to others. I hope she will love to care for her body by treating it with respect and being fulfilled by what she's been given... cause I hope that for me too.